Clearing out my phone and found a picture of myself that I actually quite like.
With the MEP election coming up, Jack Buckby released a video detailing why he wants to represent Britain in the European parliament. It was pretty long winded, so this is a condensed version that better shows what Buckby is all about.
Wearing a bikini is not for everyone. Don’t feel bad because you aren’t comfortable wearing one. Some of us are really proud of ourselves for being able to wear one and sometimes we might forget that not everyone is in the same place we are. You are still doing great and are still brave and amazing with or without a fatkini.
if someone ever tells you “but I don’t think of you as ______ I think of you as a person” what they are really saying is “I don’t consider _______ people”
I woke up to racist #ukip propaganda in the post, so I had to do something to it, however childish. This was delivered to me, a migrant, in a majority migrant area. I hope my neighbors don’t get too scared for themselves and their kids. #racist #nigelfarage
I took my girlfriend to an improv show the other night and during intermission we were passionately arguing over whether half a 5 Hour Energy shot would give you 2.5 hours of energy or 5 hours of half-assed energy so we turned around to ask the opinions of the three people behind us and one of them said “Are all your arguments like this because we heard you in the lobby earlier fighting over the right way to pronounce ‘egg’?”
In several situations, related to quite a few different areas of my life. I think the advice ‘fake it til you make it’ is either bad or too simplistic. Perhaps that works for some people, but it seems to me to be potentially burying your true feelings and responses under a layer of ‘shoulds’ that are probably dictated societally.
It might seem like nothing but a linguistic disagreement but I much prefer actively analysing my reactions, whether thoughts, actions or emotions, and comparing them to how I’d like to be. Then and only then I try to pause and sit my my feelings a bit before taking action. It actually seems to be working too, which is amazing. This doesn’t really work for stuff like mental health, but can work in stuff like arguments with friends, biting the bullet in terms of making stressful utilities etc phone calls, relationships etc. Of course those things can be and are affected by my/anyone’s mental health but I think there can be some separation.
Also, if you’re working with someone else then I think it really helps to say ‘I find x hard, but it’s something I want to work on. I find it often brings up y for me, so please stick with me if that’s where I go emotionally’. I feel like with this latter bit I’m incredibly lucky to know people I can confide stuff in where I don’t feel they’re going to use my y reaction against me.
Vegan Mug Cake Round Up
i think maybe the most dismissive thing a person can say when you confess to them about mental health things is “everybody’s crazy!”. like nah. this is why i just can’t with mentally healthy people any more? it’s so hurtful to have your shit trivialised like that when opening up to somebody about it is so difficult that you can barely choke the words out. i can’t trust you if you have a well behaved brain.
they were rescued from a testing lab, they’ve never walked on grass before
they look so nervous :(
look at his tail wag in the last gif as he touches grass i caNNOT
dangermooch asked: What's been one of the best mornings you've had in recent memory?
Ooh as someone who often dislikes mornings it’s nice to be reminded of good ones! So much so that I’m gonna do three:
- Waking up earlier than usual in my new house having slept well at a time when I thought I wouldn’t. Bella the cat was there for cuddles and there were free-for-all raspberries in the kitchen
- bivalves came over within an hour of me waking up and we made amazing vegan breakfast and lay around with the sun shining though the windows. Then had more breakfast later in the day - chocolate croissants and coffee.
- I managed to get up and leave the house within an hour of waking up (difficult with my anxiety usually) and meet a friend and I coped okay and hanging out with him was great and I was less anxious than I could have been.
gaywitchesforabortions reblogged your post and added:
this is true but i also feel like there should be allowances or a degree of understanding for people who have difficulty remembering unusual/uncommon or specifically created pronouns because they have learning disabilities, memory and cognition issues or are learning english as a second language. So like, personally I would add the caveat that many people in this situation are doing the best they can. I’m not talking about people just being jerks though of course
Ah yeah that makes absolute sense. I’m also not always that great at conjugating all sets of pronouns, and this is made harder for people with English as an additional language or any difficulties with language. When I reblogged it I was thinking of people who use ‘they’ for, specifically, trans women whose pronouns are ‘she/her’ as a way of violently de-gendering them as a part of transmisogyny. Or people who think using ‘they’ for everyone would somehow even out power differences in gender hierarchies (pro-tip: it doesn’t. it just erases people’s experiences and is part of that ‘we all bleed red’ shit).
I prefer ze/zir but I know not everyone can do that so I generally say “well I prefer ‘ze/zir’ but ‘they’ is absolutely fine” and as long as someone’s intention is good can totally forgive mistakes.